By: Alina Jitariu
Being unique is such a buzzword… we all want to be unique, but how many of us truly understand what this means and what is the” price” for living a unique life?
I am not here to tell you that I have all the answers, because I don’t. I am, just like you, experimenting with my design, an experiment that never ends, not even after 7 years of deconditioning. The only thing I can do, is to share my unique experience and what I have discovered so far in case you might find my perspective valuable or inspiring for your own unique process, or at least, make you wonder… Are you really ready to be unique?
First of all, if you are familiar with the BG5/Human Design system, you already know that it is all about uniqueness. The map you have, is a way of seeing your true nature which gives you the possibility of living what is there in your own design, an expression of a unique being, that was never born before and will never be born again, YOU.
We are all born as unique beings or with this potential of living a unique life but, as you already know, this is not so easy to actually experience. Why? Because we live in a deeply homogenized world that makes us suppress this potential and most of us never get to live a unique life. Most of us get to live a life that does not belong to us, a conditioned life, full of pain, misunderstandings, regrets, blame, shame, guilt, frustration, disappointment, anger and bitterness.
When you live a conditioned life, you will never be able to see or express your uniqueness, it is just not possible. When you live your true authentic life, you will automatically BE unique, it is not something you have to do, but something you allow to express through you.
The curse of living a unique life, is that you cannot be part of the crowd as you used to, and this can be frightening because we all crave for belonging and being accepted and loved by others, but this can happen only if you live a homogenized life.
Uniqueness is not loved, accepted or liked by all, it cannot be. People are scared of something they don’t understand, that they can’t relate to. Being unique is usually a path of aloneness… You are like a wild wolf, that some people can admire and others are afraid of and want to “stop”, because the wolf doesn’t operate under the same rules as they are, the wolf cannot be tamed, predictable or put in a box so, he is dangerous.
So, the first thing is that, if you want to live your uniqueness, you have to let go of what you are not. Your old, conditioned self needs to die to be reborn as the true being that you were intended to be. And this takes time, at least 7 years.
But, what is funny is that when you begin to live as yourself, other cannot try and stop you anymore. Because they can no longer try and stop your false self, the old illusion of yourself which doesn’t exist anymore when you already went through this process yourself.
So, how many of us are willing to let go of our illusion of ourselves that makes us feel safe and in our comfort zone? How many of us are willing to wait that long for something that we have no control over and have no idea how that will impact our lives?
What if, the price of claiming and living your uniqueness is staying in your current safe job? What if the price is your current cozy marriage? What if the price is your finances? What if the price is your group of friends? What if the price is living in isolation and not being cheered by the group? What if you are judged by others or considered to be wired or stupid? What if the price you have to pay for being unique is your entire lifestyle, you are so attached to?
Are you willing to lose all of that in order to get your unique life?… And here is your choice and no one can make that choice for you, but you.
But uniqueness matters, uniqueness is the only thing that truly matters because it is the truth, and the only way you can live your purpose in life, and once you pass over all of these fears, you are FREE and ready to receive the gift of living your unique life, only then.
So, maybe you are wondering, OK, I am ready to pay the needed price, because I want to live my life’s purpose, what can I do to live my uniqueness? And here is the beauty and the immense value of this knowledge. You don’t have to do anything, you don’t have to search for your uniqueness or purpose somewhere out there in the world, you don’t need to chase it, or intend it, or manifest it with rituals and affirmations, all you have to do is enter into the experiment of your deconditioning process by living true to who you are and live what is there in your design.
How do you do that? Don’t make decisions based on the dictates of others or of your mind. Discover your unique design and then begin by following your Decision making strategy, and you will not be able to be something or someone else, other than who you are designed to be. UNIQUELY YOU!
Meet Alina Jitariu, one of our esteemed Instructor for BG5 Foundation and various BG5 Business Institute special programs in Romanian language.
Alina is a career and business BG5 Consultant and an Instructor for the BG5 Business Institute. She is a published author with a solid background in psychology, training and human development.
With her life work theme of Service, she is here to assist and serve humanity with her unique gifts and talents. She has a logical understanding of what it means to be human, being moved by dissatisfaction to focus on correcting, reorganizing and serving humanity.
Alina uses a holistic approach in her work, being able to see a person beyond the surface. Having a completely open Identity she naturally acts as a mirror being able to guide people back into alignment with their true authentic self.
If you are ready for a true and radical transformation, if you are ready to live at your fullest potential, Alina is the right person for you to assist you on your personal journey of self-discovery and self-mastery.
Be on the lookout for these courses coming soon and join Alina Jitariu on an empowering journey to unlock the secrets of BG5 and cultivating a winning mindset.
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